Forgiveness sets you free. Forgivenss does not mean that you forget. It means that you let go of anger toward whoever has hurt you. Holding a grudge is like tying yourself up with a big rope--you will miss out on positive opportunities in the future. Had I held on to my anger against the Khmer Rouge for killing my father and Uncle Heng and causing my family and me so much pain, I would have not been able to achieve my dream of becoming a medical doctor. I would have been too busy projecting my pain and anger onto those around me. Instead, I learned to give back and do well by becomining a part of the healing process.